I was inspired by Jasmine to do this post. Beauty can be seen and interpreted in many ways. I think every country, ethnicity, and individuals have their own definition of what they think is beautiful.
To be honest, I feel that the media plays a big role at setting beauty standards and they seem to be majorly centered around celebrities, models, and their physique. Many of us envy and idolize their curvy, thin figure and their gorgeous faces but aside from the beauty facades that we see with your eyes, they are human just like the rest of us.
I'm far from meeting those beauty standards. I don't have flawless skin. My body is so out of shape. I don't have enough hair...well you get the idea. Ironically, I maintain a beauty blog that focuses on beauty products, nails, and makeup...things that are meant to make you look pretty or prettier.
I wanted to take this moment to reflect on the things that people don't see, and only those who have taken the time to know me only knows. I'm talking about inner beauty. As much as I enjoy to prettify myself, just cause it makes me feel better and I like having fun with it. The truth is I work even harder on my inner beauty. I don't really talk about personal stuff on my blog, just cause I don't think it's appropriate in most cases.
I'm going to list 5 things that I think makes me beautiful inside and 5 things that I and working to improve.
My Inner Beauty
1. I'm an unselfish and generous person. This is a quality that has caused me just as much pain as joy to be able and willing to give, help, and be there for others. I've been lied to, taken advantage of, and paid the price. I'm sure many of you have been in this situation at some point in your life and that you can relate. All I ever want back is to be appreciated and it's very disheartening and hurtful when someone you've gone out of your ways to help makes you feel insignificant and what you did out of love and compassion was worthless to them. If anyone showed you kindness, the least you can do is make them feel appreciated. I think people tend to forget that.
2. I'm patient. In the past, I guess I was more of a push over but I've learned through my experiences to differentiate between the goods and the bads. Patience is a virtue but it's not always the solution to a problem. The best way to practice patience is knowing when it is needed.
3. I'm understanding. I'm very analytic. I take into consideration all the facts, the possibilities, and the reasons, before I form a judgement or opinion. I know we're humans and no one is perfect. Sometimes we do stupid things but if it was for a good cause and the intention behind it is honest then I can look past someone's mistake.
4. I'm true to myself and others. Nothing annoys me more when I know or feel that someone is lying, faking the funk, or pretending. I'm very bad at lying anyways and I hate having a guilty conscience. I would prefer if someone hates me for being honest than someone loving me for being fake.
5. I'm easy going. Even if it may seem that I have peculiar taste in fashion, makeup, or other things in life, I am overall a very simple person and easy to get along with. I pretty much would agree to anything as long as I am treated fairly.
Things That Need More Work
1. Acceptance. I am often at war with myself. I am my hardest critic. I am very hard on myself when I feel that I am not good enough, I did something wrong, or that I failed at something. I try to accept and forgive myself for not meeting my own standards.
2. Learning to let go. I hate to admit it but I have a hard time letting go of my past sufferings. They say time heal all wounds but in my case it's not always true. Time just puts them to sleep. For the most part, they remain dormant deep down and I often forget about them until something or someone scratches the surface and I relapse right back into the state I used to be. I don't think there's a cure for it. On a brighter note, I don't really regret any of it. I think it has made me more humble and taught me how to be a better person, how to treat others, and deepen my perspective.
3. Controlling issues. No, I do not impose my control over people but I have controlling issues with myself and the situation I'm in. There are certain things I can't control and I tend to beat myself up for it. I think to myself...what if you did this, what if you tried that, maybe it wouldn't be this way. I have to remind myself that it is what it is. Just keep moving. You're not super woman.
4. Motivation. Eh, I sure am low on that. Feel free to enlighten me. What keeps you motivated and what do you do to stay motivated?
5. Socialize. My life is pretty laid back. Sure I have a few friends. Sure I hang out with my family and friends every once in a blue moon but I don't know, I still think I'm socially challenged, lol. I wish I was a little crazier, wilder, and louder, perhaps that would help? I just don't have that in me. I'm a mom, I'm mild, and I rather stay home than hitting up the clubs or bars. -_-
Ok so this post turned out to be a lot longer than I anticipated. I hope it helps remind others that they should also embrace their inner beauty. I think we sometimes get caught up with so many things that we forget ourselves, our worth, and what makes us truly beautiful.
Feel free to share your inner beauty, what makes you feel beautiful, whatever you think of inner beauty, or share some advice and inspiration to me?